I cannot tell you how deeply the paragraph about baby's cells getting into the mother's bloodstream, etc, sits with me. As an adoptee who has been exploring for years her adoption and how it affected her, this caused me to stop breathing for a moment. People like to claim that a newborn is a clean slate and act like one can take them away from their mother and each will just go on and live their life separate from each other, never needing one another, never feeling one another. This is just not true. Adoption centers on loss. The loss of a baby by a mother, the loss of a mother by an infant. The real connection, though, is never truly broken.
Thank you for sharing this with me...I hope the information came to you and the right time. I think this deeper awareness of what mothers have always felt, has been an enormous comfort to anyone who has a child but perhaps especially those who have chosen adoption or experienced pregnancy loss or stillbirth. Research also shows that the baby's cells will travel from the mother and into the foetus in future pregnancies so siblings share a connection, too. And thank you for your pre-order, I'm very grateful x
I really loved your chat with Rachael. So much so, I listened to it for a second time. So many pertinent messages. Cannot wait to receive your book in Jan. Thanks Jodi
The little things that happen really do make the story of life. As I was reading your account of the moments with your boy I could visualise all those moments of my son growing into the young man he is today.
And know your role changes as they take flight and we must trust them to believe in themselves and make their own choices.
Thankyou for creating from the quiet spaces and continuing to provide gentle nudges for self care. I look forward to reading this one. Have pre ordered x
Preordered!
I cannot tell you how deeply the paragraph about baby's cells getting into the mother's bloodstream, etc, sits with me. As an adoptee who has been exploring for years her adoption and how it affected her, this caused me to stop breathing for a moment. People like to claim that a newborn is a clean slate and act like one can take them away from their mother and each will just go on and live their life separate from each other, never needing one another, never feeling one another. This is just not true. Adoption centers on loss. The loss of a baby by a mother, the loss of a mother by an infant. The real connection, though, is never truly broken.
Thank you for sharing this with me...I hope the information came to you and the right time. I think this deeper awareness of what mothers have always felt, has been an enormous comfort to anyone who has a child but perhaps especially those who have chosen adoption or experienced pregnancy loss or stillbirth. Research also shows that the baby's cells will travel from the mother and into the foetus in future pregnancies so siblings share a connection, too. And thank you for your pre-order, I'm very grateful x
I really loved your chat with Rachael. So much so, I listened to it for a second time. So many pertinent messages. Cannot wait to receive your book in Jan. Thanks Jodi
Thank you, Kate. I've had some really lovely feedback from that podcast which has been lovely x
The little things that happen really do make the story of life. As I was reading your account of the moments with your boy I could visualise all those moments of my son growing into the young man he is today.
And know your role changes as they take flight and we must trust them to believe in themselves and make their own choices.
It always comes back to trust, doesn't it x
Oooh the cellular love bit. 😭😭😭
It explains so many of our feelings, doesn’t it x
Thankyou for creating from the quiet spaces and continuing to provide gentle nudges for self care. I look forward to reading this one. Have pre ordered x